Dating

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          College is such a stressful, yet exciting time in someone’s life. You make the decision of what you want to do for the rest of your life. You change your mind about five times before you come to a final decision on your major. You get probably the least amount of sleep you have ever gotten before and wonder how you possibly get so much done with so little sleep. Finally, for some of us, college is when you really start to think about the possibility of marriage and starting a family. Once you start to think about this, it brings on a whole other list of stresses in your life. As you enter the dating game, you wonder about how I am going to find someone to date, how do I know if they like me back, what should I do for dates, are we taking things too fast, and the list goes on and on. Today I am going to talk about common mistakes made in dating, as well as social “norms” and how they negatively impact our society’s view of dating.
              One of the biggest lies that people are believing right now is that “dating” is old fashioned, and that it is okay to just hang out with each other. There is so much wrong with this style of belief. When you are interested in someone and are juggling the idea of marrying them there are so many things that you want/ need to know about them before you take the big plunge. You want to know what their goals and dreams are for the future, what is their family like, religious beliefs, how they feel about politics, and about a couple hundred other facts. It is important that people are going on dates that creates an environment where this is possible. This doesn’t have to be a big extravagant plan, it can be as simple as taking a walk around the park or going and grabbing some dinner. When going on dates, there is the expectation to communicate and learn about each other. Just “hanging out” does not create this kind of needed environment. You don’t get to really know each other, and don’t get to see how each other reacts in real life situations. If the only time you see our significant other is just sitting on the couch watching tv, you have no idea how they are going to respond in certain situations when you are married.
              Another plague that is negatively affecting dating is not communicating. Too often people get into a relationship and never really discuss what they want or even where they are at in each other’s eyes. In class we discussed the four steps of courtship, which are: Dating, Courtship, Engagement, and finally Marriage. Each one of these steps is crucial to having a successful marriage. Before you can progress onto the next stage, you need to know what stage you are even on! This is a discussion that needs to take place between the two of you, and you have to be in agreement on exactly where you are at. You need to discuss where the relationship is going, how fast you want it to move, and many other aspects that will determine the success or failure of the relationship.
              Dating is an exciting yet terrifying part of life. If done right, it will lead you to your companion that you will be with for the rest of your life. If done wrong, it could end in divorce, and many broken hearts. If you get anything from this post, please understand the importance of taking dating seriously. Don’t just “hang out.” Get our there and go on actual dates. Actually talk to each other, and figure out exactly what is going on, and where everything is going. I know that if you do so you will have more meaningful and successful relationships.

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